Spousal Support

[RichardSimon]

Originally Posted by zljones

Some of you guys are luckier than hell, my finacee is as unsupportive as can be, even though I do not spend her money only my money. I pay the majority of the bills and on time, and make nearly double what she does, yet I still get a hard time. Luckily I have our mail key, so I sneak in all my packages.

Zack - this is your second post on this thread about your fiancee and how she just hates your hobby. You sure you got the right woman? Not just that she hates your collecting but everything you have said about her is just so negative, you make it seem as if she has total control and you are second guessing your decision about her and needing a place to vent about it.
You have to sneak around with the mail key and you two are not even married yet.
Just my two cents here, I have been married for a long time to an understanding woman.
And like KOC has said,, good luck.

[ullmandds]

I tend to agree with the previous 2 posts...get out while you can...and it's free!!!!

[Exhibitman]

Originally Posted by RichardSimon

Zack - this is your second post on this thread about your fiancee and how she just hates your hobby. You sure you got the right woman? Not just that she hates your collecting but everything you have said about her is just so negative, you make it seem as if she has total control and you are second guessing your decision about her and needing a place to vent about it.
You have to sneak around with the mail key and you two are not even married yet.
Just my two cents here, I have been married for a long time to an understanding woman.
And like KOC has said,, good luck.

Ditto. Run away!

[glchen]

My wife detests the hobby also. She doesn't like the money or time I spend on it. It is what it is. Everything else about her is great however. This is delving into a separate topic, but I don't think every relationship has to be perfect. It's a constant work in process.

[dlfallen]

My wife is very supportive and understanding. She knows the pleasure my collecting brings to me and that is enough for her. In turn, I support without reservation her activities, such as scrapbooking (that can also be expensive and time consuming). Not once has she said a word about the money or time I spend on my hobby. I think it is this mutual respect and tolerance that has allowed our marriage to last 42 years so far. Are you reading this Zack?

We recently moved from a two story house to a one level. It has three bedrooms which are now our master bedroom, guest bedroom, and a combination office/scrapbooking/sewing room. It was my wife's passionate determination that we build a "man cave" for my "baseball stuff". She found and hired a contractor to build the walls in one bay of our three car garage (now two car). She had it insulated, carpeted, and lighted. She had a heater installed in the wall and a locking door to the room. Now I am as comfortable as a bug in a rug. Although she doesn't have a strong interest in baseball memorabilia, she takes pride in my collection and new guests are required to tour the man cave. What a great wife I have!

[rhettyeakley]

My wife has always been great about it. As with most of the girlfriends I had prior to her she thought it was dorky until she saw how much money I could make by selling some of the stuff.

I knew I had a keeper when I caught her reading a book about Edd Roush and the 1919 Reds/White Sox and when asked why she had been reading it she began to quiz me about Roush's good friends Bill Rariden & Ivy Wingo!

Seriously, there is nothing more strange/amazing than a girl talking about Ivy Wingo!

[Matthew H]

I hide cards, she hides clothes... It works.

[zljones]

Perhaps I said too much about my finacee.

[Chris D.]

My wife has no problem with me collecting cards. I think it's equally important for the relationship that both spouses have things they share together and things that they don't. I play baseball and she plays ice hockey. You can't lose yourself in a relationship.

[iwantitiwinit]

Originally Posted by Matthew H

I hide cards, she hides clothes... It works.

Ditto with a caveat, she better not bring home a $2000 handbag and better not say anything if I buy a $2000 t206.

[zljones]

I think that one of the biggest issues for me was communication with her about the cards. I recently was upfront with her about it, now we shall see how she deals with it from now on. She might surprise me and become more supportive, if not, I will be saying "see ya!"