Spousal Support

[zljones]

Some of you guys are luckier than hell, my finacee is as unsupportive as can be, even though I do not spend her money only my money. I pay the majority of the bills and on time, and make nearly double what she does, yet I still get a hard time. Luckily I have our mail key, so I sneak in all my packages.

[Howe’s Hunter]

In the old days, I really never spent that much on my cards. They were all, for the most part, beaters. But I had been lucky enough to collect some really rare ones early on, so when I started to sell off all but the two with Howe's stamp, and she saw how much money was coming in (that I originally planned on spending for more cards as I found them), she so much as said there were other things in our lives that could use that money much more than my collection (wife speak: her bathroom needed remodeling, which it desperately did need).

Put almost all the money from the first 200 T206s I had, plus the 38 year run of complete Topps sets (1972-2010) into her bathroom, and have not heard a complaint since.

[MVSNYC]

My wife is very supportive. she might not understand why i collect, but she certainly respects it...she is a sports fan (which is awesome), we love going to games together throughout the year (Yanks, Mets, Knicks, etc). we just got married last year, so she knew what she was getting with me (avid collector & huge sports fan). we're planning to attend the Nat'l together.

[ullmandds]

I have never had a girlfriend who thought my collection was silly in any way...in fact every single one of them took an interest in it...thought my "little paintings" were soooooo coooool...and encouraged me in my collecting.

A good woman appreciates a man who is passionate...about something...about anything!!!!!

[atx840]

Originally Posted by ullmandds

A good woman appreciates a man who is passionate...about something...about anything!!!!!

Unless it's T206s then she should mock them...

[t206blogcom]

My wife is supportive. She teases me about my cards, calling me a dork. She also refers to my hobby as 'the other woman'. So whenever she sees me on eBay or Net54, she asks how 'baseball card girl' is doing.

I'll sometimes show her a few cards when they come in the mail if they're something special. She politely listens, but has no interest in cards.

We're needing to buy a bigger home and I mentioned I might sell the bulk of my collection to help with the downpayment. She immediately said she didn't want me to sell my collection because it means so much to me.

[RichardSimon]

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[thekingofclout]

Originally Posted by zljones

Some of you guys are luckier than hell, my finacee is as unsupportive as can be, even though I do not spend her money only my money. I pay the majority of the bills and on time, and make nearly double what she does, yet I still get a hard time. Luckily I have our mail key, so I sneak in all my packages.

Fiancee? Get out now Zach, NOW! I'm not kidding. Doesn't sound like the right match for you. Good luck with that.

[RichardSimon]

Originally Posted by zljones

Some of you guys are luckier than hell, my finacee is as unsupportive as can be, even though I do not spend her money only my money. I pay the majority of the bills and on time, and make nearly double what she does, yet I still get a hard time. Luckily I have our mail key, so I sneak in all my packages.

Zack - this is your second post on this thread about your fiancee and how she just hates your hobby. You sure you got the right woman? Not just that she hates your collecting but everything you have said about her is just so negative, you make it seem as if she has total control and you are second guessing your decision about her and needing a place to vent about it.
You have to sneak around with the mail key and you two are not even married yet.
Just my two cents here, I have been married for a long time to an understanding woman.
And like KOC has said,, good luck.

[ullmandds]

I tend to agree with the previous 2 posts...get out while you can...and it's free!!!!

[Exhibitman]

Originally Posted by RichardSimon

Zack - this is your second post on this thread about your fiancee and how she just hates your hobby. You sure you got the right woman? Not just that she hates your collecting but everything you have said about her is just so negative, you make it seem as if she has total control and you are second guessing your decision about her and needing a place to vent about it.
You have to sneak around with the mail key and you two are not even married yet.
Just my two cents here, I have been married for a long time to an understanding woman.
And like KOC has said,, good luck.

Ditto. Run away!

[glchen]

My wife detests the hobby also. She doesn't like the money or time I spend on it. It is what it is. Everything else about her is great however. This is delving into a separate topic, but I don't think every relationship has to be perfect. It's a constant work in process.

[dlfallen]

My wife is very supportive and understanding. She knows the pleasure my collecting brings to me and that is enough for her. In turn, I support without reservation her activities, such as scrapbooking (that can also be expensive and time consuming). Not once has she said a word about the money or time I spend on my hobby. I think it is this mutual respect and tolerance that has allowed our marriage to last 42 years so far. Are you reading this Zack?

We recently moved from a two story house to a one level. It has three bedrooms which are now our master bedroom, guest bedroom, and a combination office/scrapbooking/sewing room. It was my wife's passionate determination that we build a "man cave" for my "baseball stuff". She found and hired a contractor to build the walls in one bay of our three car garage (now two car). She had it insulated, carpeted, and lighted. She had a heater installed in the wall and a locking door to the room. Now I am as comfortable as a bug in a rug. Although she doesn't have a strong interest in baseball memorabilia, she takes pride in my collection and new guests are required to tour the man cave. What a great wife I have!

[rhettyeakley]

My wife has always been great about it. As with most of the girlfriends I had prior to her she thought it was dorky until she saw how much money I could make by selling some of the stuff.

I knew I had a keeper when I caught her reading a book about Edd Roush and the 1919 Reds/White Sox and when asked why she had been reading it she began to quiz me about Roush's good friends Bill Rariden & Ivy Wingo!

Seriously, there is nothing more strange/amazing than a girl talking about Ivy Wingo!

[Matthew H]

I hide cards, she hides clothes... It works.

[zljones]

Perhaps I said too much about my finacee.

[iwantitiwinit]

Originally Posted by Matthew H

I hide cards, she hides clothes... It works.

Ditto with a caveat, she better not bring home a $2000 handbag and better not say anything if I buy a $2000 t206.