Enough with the hostility...

[freakhappy]

Originally Posted by itjclarke

I also agree with OP. I probably haven't been involved enough to get caught in the middle of any of the agressive, hostile, or condescending posts/threads.. but am pretty taken aback by some of them. I especially feel bad for some of the newer board members (I fall into that category) that have an honest question, but get hammered.. a recent thread about authenticity of a T206, and other about the oil pianting come to mind. It would be a bummer if people just trying to learn or get feedback become less likely to post their questions. Everyone one was a beginner at some point, and a lot of things that are obvious to many are not to others. For me, it's a hobby, it's for fun.. I do not really understand where all the ego and attitude fit into it.

+1...well said, Ian.

I feel the same way about things. Some of these new guys get "jumped" when they post questions. I understand that to some of us the answer is clear as day, but to people that just joined and venturing into the hobby and pre-war, it's like learning a new language. All we can ask is for everyone to be a little patient and take a step back and evaluate.

[Runscott]

Originally Posted by freakhappy

+1...well said, Ian.

I feel the same way about things. Some of these new guys get "jumped" when they post questions.

Mike, it's not just the dumb questions - in some cases it's any questions or comments whatsoever - when I re-joined the hobby after a long hiatus, I found 'new' guys here who had joined while I was gone, and who seemed to have a need to 'protect their turf.' It takes a while to work past those people, and I can promise you they are paying no attention to this thread. If I thought they were, I wouldn't be posting this.

Edited to clarify: The 'new' guys I'm talking about are people who established themselves as board veterans while I was gone. Basically, newbies turn into oldies and some of them eventually become part of the problem - this should be obvious, but thought I would clarify. Also, it's good to keep such perspective when you join a new forum and feel like you are getting beaten up - remember that one day you'll be an old established guy and should treat the next generation of new guys better than you were treated.

[wazoo]

Thanks guys! Really, it means a lot to have a welcoming board. You guys were so nice to me, and still are, so I just want to make sure the tradition continues for the other guys. I know, I can't believe it either, but my year anniversary will be coming up in a few months, so time really flies when you're having fun. Best regards guys.

[E93]

I think it is a lot easier to be aggressive when hiding behind a keyboard. Some people just get a rush from it. It happens far less frequently when people have actually met each other face-to-face. Of course not everyone can get to the Net54 dinner at the National, but those sorts of things help for keeping things civil. It would be good if we would all put a little thought into the most skillful way to put things when they are potentially contentious or conflict-inducing.

Credit goes to Wazoo, but it should be humbling that it takes a 16 year old to bring this conversation up.
JimB

[Runscott]

Originally Posted by E93

I think it is a lot easier to be aggressive when hiding behind a keyboard. Some people just get a rush from it. It happens far less frequently when people have actually met each other face-to-face. Of course not everyone can get to the Net54 dinner at the National, but those sorts of things help for keeping things civil. It would be good if we would all put a little thought into the most skillful way to put things when they are potentially contentious or conflict-inducing.

Credit goes to Wazoo, but it should be humbling that it takes a 16 year old to bring this conversation up.
JimB

It's interesting you should bring this up - I could not agree more.

I was just talking with a board member on the phone, who was upset with someone. I told him that once you see someone face-to-face, it is if they are a completely different person, and it's almost impossible to still feel the same dislike you felt for the 'guy on the internet'. I highly recommend meeting people face-to-face, especially the ones that you feel resentment toward because of internet interactions.

[ethicsprof]

I do think that it is very difficult to ameliorate hostility without some measure of self-awareness accompanied by compassion for the other. The lack of a balanced self-awareness often yields egocentricity which is a breeding ground for hostility. Typically, when we engage others on the board so as to satisfy our own self-aggrandizement, we are inclined to hurt whoever or whatever breaches the boundaries of our arenas of 'kingship'. When we engage others for reasons of collegiality and hopes for the enlivening and enlargement of communities of learning, we operate most frequently with openness and a desire to create the common good, not just our own egoistic 'good'. My hope is for an engendering
of balanced awareness and the common good---in all of us.
all the best,
barry

[Runscott]

Originally Posted by ethicsprof

I do think that it is very difficult to ameliorate hostility without some measure of self-awareness accompanied by compassion for the other. The lack of a balanced self-awareness often yields egocentricity which is a breeding ground for hostility. Typically, when we engage others on the board so as to satisfy our own self-aggrandizement, we are inclined to hurt whoever or whatever breaches the boundaries of our arenas of 'kingship'. When we engage others for reasons of collegiality and hopes for the enlivening and enlargement of communities of learning, we operate most frequently with openness and a desire to create the common good, not just our own egoistic 'good'. My hope is for an engendering
of balanced awareness and the common good---in all of us.
all the best,
barry

That makes me want to do this...

[Leon]

Originally Posted by ethicsprof

I do think that it is very difficult to ameliorate hostility without some measure of self-awareness accompanied by compassion for the other. The lack of a balanced self-awareness often yields egocentricity which is a breeding ground for hostility. Typically, when we engage others on the board so as to satisfy our own self-aggrandizement, we are inclined to hurt whoever or whatever breaches the boundaries of our arenas of 'kingship'. When we engage others for reasons of collegiality and hopes for the enlivening and enlargement of communities of learning, we operate most frequently with openness and a desire to create the common good, not just our own egoistic 'good'. My hope is for an engendering
of balanced awareness and the common good---in all of us.
all the best,
barry

I couldn't have said it better Barry. Actually, I couldn't have said it....period.

[ethicsprof]

Leon, your words are most kind. Thank you.
Scott, your picture is most funny. Thank you.
I do hope,scott, that it is a metaphor for your desire to provide such libations to your
community of scholars in a celebratory fashion.
all the best,
barry

[frankbmd]

A civil approach with some measure of self-awareness accompanied by compassion to satisfy my own self-aggrandizement

Okay, I know they're not prewar, wanna fight about it?

[E93]

Originally Posted by ethicsprof

I do think that it is very difficult to ameliorate hostility without some measure of self-awareness accompanied by compassion for the other. The lack of a balanced self-awareness often yields egocentricity which is a breeding ground for hostility. Typically, when we engage others on the board so as to satisfy our own self-aggrandizement, we are inclined to hurt whoever or whatever breaches the boundaries of our arenas of 'kingship'. When we engage others for reasons of collegiality and hopes for the enlivening and enlargement of communities of learning, we operate most frequently with openness and a desire to create the common good, not just our own egoistic 'good'. My hope is for an engendering
of balanced awareness and the common good---in all of us.
all the best,
barry

I nominate Barry as the official Net 54 philosopher! Well said my friend.
JimB

[Rickyy]

I usually glance and drive past the hostility and on towards card pictures and information... it allows me to come here relaxed and leave the same way!

Ricky Y