Not O/T - Does Marriage Counseling Work?

[Jim VB]

1. Since when does a difference of opinion constitute a fight?

Message boards, by nature have no tone, no sarcasm filter, no audio cues to what someone says. So, yes, a difference of opinion between a new guy and a 30 year veteran, come off as a fight.



2. What other "fights" am I getting into in "every thread"?

Anyone else who has had a disagreement with chicago in the last 2-3 months want to vote here with a "ME"?


3. So I jumped into a pool and found it to be a bit too cold? So what? I simply decided that since I enjoy rarity more than quantity, the 15 card set wasnt for me.

If 15 cards is "too cold" or too deep, you might have to listen to some of the guys (not me, mind you) that have a little more experience. I do NOT consider myself an expert on any set, in any area of card collecting and I wouldn't notice another 15 cards either way. (Pics below.) I'm just saying this board has some real experts here. Use them.



4. Did you figure out exactly what you liked by month 4 of your collecting career?


Certainly not. But I was 5 at the time and collecting 1960 Topps cards out of wax packs and cutting them off of sheets. By the time I was out of college and gainfully employeed, yeah, I had a handle on it.

[Chicago206]

"I'm just saying this board has some real experts here. Use them."

At least we can agree on this point. The knowlege here is ultra impressive! However, in order to "maximize" my returns in this forum, it seems that I better not voice any of my opinions, and just agree with anything they say. They seem to hate it when a new guy has thoughts of his own!

[Jim VB]

Originally Posted by Chicago206

However, in order to "maximize" my returns in this forum, it seems that I better not voice any of my opinions, and just agree with anything they say. They seem to hate it when a new guy has thoughts of his own!

First, "maximize" your return, sounds like something you should be doing with a 401k, not with your spare time hobby. Although some of the dealers on the site may try to "maximize" their return, I bet Ted Z. and Jim B. have never once thought of it that way.

Second, no one is saying you can never voice an opinion. But, when your opinion is weighed against 30 years of experience, don't get defensive when others don't side with you.

[Chicago206]

Originally Posted by Jim VB

First, "maximize" your return, sounds like something you should be doing with a 401k, not with your spare time hobby. Although some of the dealers on the site may try to "maximize" their return, I bet Ted Z. and Jim B. have never once thought of it that way.

Second, no one is saying you can never voice an opinion. But, when your opinion is weighed against 30 years of experience, don't get defensive when others don't side with you.

Perhaps I was too ambiguous, or perhaps it was just lost on you, but when I said "maximize my return", it meant the return of knowlege and enjoyment I can get from this place based on the investment of my time here. Had nothing to do with money whatsoever. Sorry for the confusion.

[Jim VB]

Originally Posted by Chicago206

Perhaps I was too ambiguous, or perhaps it was just lost on you, but when I said "maximize my return", it meant the return of knowlege and enjoyment I can get from this place based on the investment of my time here. Had nothing to do with money whatsoever. Sorry for the confusion.

Wasn't lost on me one bit. But it was about you getting back something, tangible or intangible. A lot of people don't see it that way. Just have fun with the hobby.

[collectbaseball]

The only person I've had to justify my collection to is my mom, who is most aggravated by all the packages coming in the mail (and that I should be saving up for tuition!). Luckily, I've managed to convince her that I'm able to sell parts of it at any time should an urgent need for cash arise -- some cards/memorabilia I could part with easily and without second thought (Yankees go first!), but others would definitely be as an absolute last resort.

Chicago, your wife must be a saint if the indecisiveness you've displayed on this forum extends in any way into real life.

[usernamealreadytaken]

The above...who is this piler-on and why, in a refering to another forum member, ever mention a wife or any family member? You know, with all this BS, why not someone step up and be the bigger man and not get into these childish back-and-forths? Don't like/agree with what a member says, ignore him. It's the attention and immediate responses that he and others may very well be feeding off of. Like the signs at the zoo...don't feed the animals...