How much the wife knows about your collection

[pclpads]

The less she knows, the better. I don't ask her about her Chico's an Macy's purchases and she doesn't ask me about my card purchases. After 36 years, seems to work.

[JollyElm]

53. Ebaysion
Hiding your auction purchases from your wife, girlfriend or significant other.

[ClementeFanOh]

My wife doesn't know. I'm keeping no secrets from her, she simply doesn't
care. I have left instructions on who to contact if I die/get abducted by
aliens, etc Trent King

[mrreality68]

my wife controls the spreadsheet

I am fortunate my wife knows and supports my hobby(DOES not understand the infatuation with it) but supports it.

She looks at it as a diversification of our investments. And prays alot that I know what I am doing.

She just thinks I should go to a form of group support like AA but obviously for Card addicts

and when I have over spent she has given me some of her money towards it.

and I pray we never get divorced. lol

[brunswickreeves]

My wife actually encouraged me to get back into the card collecting hobby as a de-stressor during a two year Grad program, reconnecting with this part of my youth. It’s carried forward as a de-stressor of family medical challenges.

For me, the cards are second to the happiness of helping fellow collectors achieve their goals and engaging on/contributing to this wonderful platform.

[Johnny630]

No wife no worries :-) here !

[cubman1941]

Originally Posted by ClementeFanOh

My wife doesn't know. I'm keeping no secrets from her, she simply doesn't
care. I have left instructions on who to contact if I die/get abducted by
aliens, etc Trent King

I am in the same boat. My wife is aware I collect baseball stuff, when we go to a thrift store or antique shop, she will always point out gloves, bats and cards to me. She has no idea the value of my collection (nor do I) and I have an email from a great person here on Net54 that has said he will make sure things are handled properly (I trust him). Meanwhile, I continue to enjoy one of my life's little pleasures.

[fkm_bky]

Same as most here. She knows I love baseball cards, and knows the general value. She also knows I fund a lot of my purchases by selling off other cards, so what I spend isn’t critiqued. That said, we really never discuss them. Like many, I have documented all my pre-war items with value so it can be used if I pass.

Bill

[jchcollins]

Originally Posted by fkm_bky

Same as most here. She knows I love baseball cards, and knows the general value. She also knows I fund a lot of my purchases by selling off other cards, so what I spend isn’t critiqued. That said, we really never discuss them. Like many, I have documented all my pre-war items with value so it can be used if I pass.

Bill

Very much the same. She’s seen big bills, she’s also seen sizeable influxes to our account when I sell things. Other than trusting me to keep my head above water with it, she could care less and couldn’t tell you the difference between a 1959 Topps card and a 1989 Upper Deck.

If and when in the even of my untimely passing my family needs information, there will be spreadsheets and trusted individuals to contact.


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[pitburgfan]

I've tried to tell her. She is not impressed, they are just pieces of paper to her. I keep a spreadsheet with the price I paid and what the value range today should be. We just had a discussion last night about selling them at some point to pay for something we both want. She is more eager to do it than I am.

[LEHR]

There are no secrets and I give the wifey as much information as she asks for, which typically isn't much. Should something unexpected happen to me, I have a detailed spreadsheet of what my collection contains, approximate value, where everything is located, and exactly who to go to when she's ready to dispose of it. I've also made it perfectly clear that I have zero expectations of her or anyone else in the family wanting to keep any part of the collection, so she could consign it the day after I kick off and I could care less at that point. I enjoy this hobby tremendously, but at the end of the day it's MY hobby and it's all just "stuff" anyway.

[CW]

Originally Posted by JollyElm

53. Ebaysion
Hiding your auction purchases from your wife, girlfriend or significant other.

Haha! Nice!

In the OP, Fred asks if your wife knows how much your collection is worth.

I'll bet that half, if not more, of the collectors on this forum don't truly realize or know themselves how much their collection is actually worth.

For some, it can be hard to keep accurate track of things. If you do take the time and put costs into a spreadsheet and hit the "sum" button to see the total amount, you may be genuinely shocked at the number you see.

[ricktmd]

Getting married later in life at age 40 (divorced 6 years later) we had a pre nup. I had and still have a baseball card bank account using separate property/ money (my own money prior to marriage). My ex-wife was more interested in our house in Los Angeles and other Real Estate I own that appreciated significantly. She wasn't interested or didn't think the baseball cards were worth pursuing and compared to the RE they were not. I am remarried for good, hopefully but still use separate property/ money that goes through my baseball card bank account. The value of cards is such these days that it would be a real bummer to fight over cards in addition to houses. In general divorce sucks and usually nobody wins.

[The Detroit Collector]

My marriage is an open book. She knows I love to collect and doesn't have a problem with it. She doesn't know much if anything about my collection. I've tried to show her some stuff I think is cool, but it doesn't impress her. She only knows a few of the big-name guys. Babe Ruth, Ty Cobb, Mantle and Miguel Cabrera (because I am a huge fanboy). Thats pretty much the extent of her sports knowledge.