BST etiquette

[JollyElm]

To the OP, put yourself in the shoes of the guy who feels he got gipped. How would you feel if you were him in this scenario? If you yourself wouldn't have been upset with how it played out, then you did the right thing. If you would've been mad and felt cheated, then give it some thought as to how you can avoid the situation in the future. That's all that matters for next time, not random opinions from the rest of us.

[Tyruscobb]

The seller shouldn't have to circle back and give the first offeror the right of refusal. I'll take it trumps negotiations.

[Peter_Spaeth]

you did nothing wrong. Indeed, had you gone back to the first buyer, the second one would have cause to be upset, because he would have been the first to accept the deal but lost out.

[ejharrington]

You're in the right. No question.

[Fred]

For clarification - did you and the potential buyer agree on a discounted price, or was the negotiation in progress?

If there was no agreement on any price, then (just my humble opinion) nothing wrong with the way this ended.

[Flintboy]

Originally Posted by Fred

For clarification - did you and the potential buyer agree on a discounted price, or was the negotiation in progress?

If there was no agreement on any price, then (just my humble opinion) nothing wrong with the way this ended.

The negotiation was in process. When I logged back in I had two messages. One from the member returning my message on the detailed condition asking if I would take “X” and a new message from another member stating he would take it at full ask.

[CobbSpikedMe]

Originally Posted by Flintboy

The negotiation was in process. When I logged back in I had two messages. One from the member returning my message on the detailed condition asking if I would take “X” and a new message from another member stating he would take it at full ask.

In this scenario I agree that the buyer offering full price gets it. It doesn't sound like an actual negotiation was even started yet. I would've sold to the guy offering full price.

In my scenario I had been talking to the guy who made an offer and I gave him first refusal when I was later offered full price. Both parties were fine with this by the way.



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[BobbyStrawberry]

Originally Posted by CobbSpikedMe

In this scenario I agree that the buyer offering full price gets it. It doesn't sound like an actual negotiation was even started yet. I would've sold to the guy offering full price.

In my scenario I had been talking to the guy who made an offer and I gave him first refusal when I was later offered full price. Both parties were fine with this by the way.
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+1 Agreed

[Fred]

No agreement on price during the negotiation - sounds like the card was still up for sale.

Not sure why the potential buyer would have been upset at you because you didn't offer it up at the full asking price. He was probably just mad at himself.

[BearBailey]

You are in the right.

[Eric72]

Originally Posted by Peter_Spaeth

you did nothing wrong. Indeed, had you gone back to the first buyer, the second one would have cause to be upset, because he would have been the first to accept the deal but lost out.

+1

[doug.goodman]

Originally Posted by Tyruscobb

The seller shouldn't have to circle back and give the first offeror the right of refusal. I'll take it trumps negotiations.

I agree 100%.

It's like making an offer on ebay, making an offer does not put the item 'on hold', if somebody else hits the buy-it-now while you are 'negotiating' with the seller, then you lose the item.

[dmats33312]

Card is available until it is sold. Pretty much anywhere I've seen the "I'll take it" trumps any negotiations because until some agrees to take it the buyer isn't obligated until terms are accepted either. A guarantee always trumps a possibility. That's the risk of negotiating.