Thanks to those who helped me here and also those who respected me here

[cubsfan-budman]

Seems odd to take one of the simplest concepts and make it so difficult.

If you have money to buy stuff and you want it, buy it.

If you don't have money to buy stuff and want it, DON'T buy it. I know you want it, but you just can't buy stuff you don't have money to pay for.

Every time you renege on an auction, you are adding a burden to the seller. In effect, you are making YOUR problem into THEIR problem.

That is rude and thoughtless.

If your desire to bid on items that you can't afford is more important to you than the time and effort of others, your priorities suck.

[Zone91]

cubsfan-budman

Yes my priorities are some times messed up....comes with my mental illnesses and I try to do my best and some times I fail in doing so!!!

Post # 6

[cubsfan-budman]

Originally Posted by Zone91

cubsfan-budman

Yes my priorities are some times messed up....comes with my mental illnesses and I try to do my best and some times I fail in doing so!!!

Post # 6

You simply need to consider how your actions affect others. Your compulsions on ebay or whatever are selfish and rude.

I don't think you intend for it to be that way, sincerely. I also think that if you consider your actions in that light, you may pause before hitting that bid button if you aren't confident about your finances.

I think that most people see ebay sellers as faceless...thats a nice thing about this board, the community is fairly small, you can interact with the sellers here in a way that you might not usually.

I think that you think of it as a simple monetary transaction and that there are no consequences for you, so there are no consequences for the seller, but that's simply not true. When you renege, the "underbidder" may have spent his money elsewhere already, costing the seller a sale and fees for relisting. Even if the underbidder does buy it, you've cost the seller a bunch of time reaching out to that person to re-sell their item and relisting it.

[iwantitiwinit]

Originally Posted by cubsfan-budman

Seems odd to take one of the simplest concepts and make it so difficult.

If you have money to buy stuff and you want it, buy it.

If you don't have money to buy stuff and want it, DON'T buy it. I know you want it, but you just can't buy stuff you don't have money to pay for.

Every time you renege on an auction, you are adding a burden to the seller. In effect, you are making YOUR problem into THEIR problem.

That is rude and thoughtless.

If your desire to bid on items that you can't afford is more important to you than the time and effort of others, your priorities suck.

Very well put. I want a lot of things too but illusion is oft not reality.