A most difficult thread- helping a friend, Bill Hedin

[JEFFV96MASTERS]

NO MONEY SHOULD BE FORWARDED TO BILLY

Let me explain why folks,,,,

As someone who is a) close to Billy as his relatives and b) has a wife who underwent lymphoma treatments the last 10 months= I have some perspective that may help out Leon/Barry in how best to handle the situation ( and future similar situations),,,,,,, its one mans opinion as both a best friend and a guy whose life is shaped by trust, honesty, and integrity,,, I live it, breathe it, and expect it of others,,, Billy included,,,

It would be best if those in need forward the associated bills to those administering the financial aid == and had the bills paid off thru the fund those aid people coordinate,,,,, having the funds handled by an outside person who administers the aid takes the headaches away,,,,, and alleviates any chances of abuse by anyone from that persons family or relatives,,,,

This way no issues == and all involved can concentrate on whats most important-- in Billys case its handling the grief of day to day life,,,,, and in the boards case its helping a board member out and making sure no headaches at all for anyone involved,,,,

Leon/Barry can handle it how they see fit,,,,

I certainly would not mail him a large check and I've known him since childhood,,, ,,, I'd want him to send me the bills and I'd make sure they get handled thru the funds collected,,,,,

I'm sure Barry would sleep a whole lot better knowing his money actually went where it should go to,,, and I'm sure he's not the only one thinking that way,,,,

Lets all just concentrate on making sure whats been collected goes to its intended purpose,,,, I know thats what I want to see,,,,, and I am sure Leon & Barry will agree with that perspective,,,,


Jeff

[ullmandds]

And now for something completely different...

[botn]

Hi Barry,

I am sure the entire 5K is going to go towards funeral expenses. Bill is not going to stiff those businesses he owes the money to but the money raised has allowed him to use the money he apparently has on hand to buy cards. So did Bill truly need the money? Something we may never know. I certainly do not blame him for wanting to escape into the world of cards at a time when he is dealing with such a great loss. Certainly a gray area.

Greg

[barrysloate]

Bill said on one of his earlier posts that he did not know if he would be able to afford the funeral expenses. That's what gave me the idea to call Leon and suggest we start a fund to help him. If the whole 5K goes to that end I will feel very good about this whole thing. I do think Bill needed the money and that his plea was genuine. It just surprised me this morning to find out he had all this extra money to buy baseball cards. If it were me I would take a hiatus from the hobby until all my other bills were paid. But that's me, and I recognize others might do it differently.

[barrysloate]

Greg S.- you very well may be right.

[whitehse]

I may not post here much but I read the boards several times a day. Last week I was so proud of these boards and today I feel ashamed of these boards.

If you gave, you gave it to the man to use the money as he sees fit. As I said before, take your blessings for the giving that you did and let Bill deal with whatever comes his way regarding the handling of the money. For God sake, the man just lost his wife. Leave him alone to grieve in peace.

Andrew White

[Wayward99]

Originally Posted by whitehse

I may not post here much but I read the boards several times a day. Last week I was so proud of these boards and today I feel ashamed of these boards.

If you gave, you gave it to the man to use the money as he sees fit. As I said before, take your blessings for the giving that you did and let Bill deal with whatever comes his way regarding the handling of the money. For God sake, the man just lost his wife. Leave him alone to grieve in peace.

Andrew White

I couldn't agree more. The fact that this thread was started for public consumption, and some of the comments within it are both incredibly saddening. Donation sent.

[calvindog]

Originally Posted by whitehse

I may not post here much but I read the boards several times a day. Last week I was so proud of these boards and today I feel ashamed of these boards.

If you gave, you gave it to the man to use the money as he sees fit. As I said before, take your blessings for the giving that you did and let Bill deal with whatever comes his way regarding the handling of the money. For God sake, the man just lost his wife. Leave him alone to grieve in peace.

Andrew White

I don't know what is more bizarre: discussing these issues publicly while the man prepares to bury his wife or waxing philosophical about sending in this conundrum to the "The Ethicist" column at the New York Times.

[Tobacco&Gum]

Originally Posted by whitehse

I may not post here much but I read the boards several times a day. Last week I was so proud of these boards and today I feel ashamed of these boards.

If you gave, you gave it to the man to use the money as he sees fit. As I said before, take your blessings for the giving that you did and let Bill deal with whatever comes his way regarding the handling of the money. For God sake, the man just lost his wife. Leave him alone to grieve in peace.

Andrew White

+1