Well, I said to myself before starting this thread, I'd give this guy through the weekend to reach out to me before I'd name him here. It doesn't look like that's happening anytime soon, so here we are.
I should say, regardless of the circumstances and my own suspicions, I don't know for certain this guy stole my money, or helped to steal my money (I hope to know soon). What is indisputable though is that this guy has been totally non communicative for over 3 weeks now, leaving critical questions from me and my bank unanswered, and as of late last week had still not simply signed a one page bank form that's been sent to him twice. This is after his being minimally communicative and vague at the beginning of this process, and after he for some reason edited his original sale thread several months after our deal. It now reads that PayPal gift is an accepted form of payment
. That thread is now locked.
Until December, I had no reason to think my transaction had been anything but a good one, and had since exchanged pleasant emails with this guy over a handful of other cards. I'm guessing several others here have probably done transactions with him, presumably all good ones since I'd never seen anything negative posted about him. I'd also guess several here may know him since he's been here since 2009 and since we've got a lot of Philly area and PA guys on this board. No matter what happens now though, or what he or his friends may eventually say in his defense, he's shown his true colors to me.
Going forward, I probably won't offer up any new details as this progresses, however I will post the outcome, and more importantly any further lessons learned that may help you guys down the road. Thank you to those who've chimed in with ideas, offers of advice and/or help, and general support. This board is the best... at least the vast majority of it.
BTW, to the point of lessons learned, I saw Ed's earlier comment about putting a void after 180 days. Thanks for the comment and it seems like a very good idea, however from all I've read, once again the bank is not responsible for honoring these types of notes on your checks. Not really sure what the banks are responsible for? That said, I probably will start putting that note on any checks, and will just hope there is a responsible teller and/or bank on the other end of it.