Wantlists - to share or not to share (and why?)

[Angyale]

Let me preface this post by saying in the past that if i was offered something I didnt collect but I knew of it being on someone elses wantlist that I made an effort to match the buyer with the seller. Ive even walked the floor of the National and other shows looking for material on others wantlists for people I considered hobby friends.

In my approximately 20 yrs of collecting Old Judge poses of a specific team, up until very recently ive share my complete pose wantlist with exactly one person who I considered a hobby friend. Keep in mind im down to looking for 14 more difficult poses of really bad players - definitely not Hofers or even stars.

Recently I was offered several poses I could use by another longtime collector. He informed me that i just missed out on several others on my wantlist that another collector (most likely not coincidentally) I shared my wantlist with ended up buying. They only bought the exact poses I need. I care somewhat but not really too much because ive actually been slowly divesting my collection to pursue other hobby interests. Im probably more disappointed than anything and I feel like a sucker for being trusting. Whatever.

Anyways - do you share your wantlists? Its hard to find tough material if noone knows your looking for it. Or do you keep it to yourself realizing someone will either jack up the prices on you because they know you “need” them or they will buy the items out from under you for whatever reason. What are your good/bad experiences with sharing wantsts? Is it a good idea? Im now more apt to share a wantlist for more commodity items like 1958 Topps cards or T206s but not rarities. Thanks for your responses - either pm or reply to ths thread.

Angyale