DJ- I haven’t PMed you in months about a Red Croft’s or any of your other rare and awesome cads?!?!?
If I want something, I usually offer very strong and then circle back once per quarter- I think the “bother” is less so if the offer is real and very substantial.
If I had something someone wants and I am not looking to sell, I say so very unequivocally hoping to end the inquiry (but I am almost always up for a trade)