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Hi- outbidding someone in extended bidding is not rude, it's completely part of the bidding process and standard in an auction.

putting in early "placeholder" bids as others have mentioned above, is the best way to put yourself in a good position to strategize during extended bidding. if you put placeholder bids in on the first day (or during the first few days) the lots are usually very low at that point and you'll most likely be outbid. best bet, try to preview the auction before bidding opens, and if you see something you are even remotely interested in, throw a bid in on the first day.

good luck, hope you win the item you want.