View Full Version : How do I put my priorities in the "Right" order???

04-25-2011, 11:20 AM
OK, without a long story to go along with it...I sat down and put a list of things in order in my life that seems to be the most important to me. I am concerned. Something has changed in the last few years and I'm not really sure why? What can I do to get the things that "should" be up top back? Here is the list in the order that I feel that I am living out day to day:

1)My sexual addiction(Internet pornography,etc)
2)Hobbies(cards,following sports,collectibles,etc)
4)House(cleaning, upkeep,etc..)
6)Family(wife,2 almost grown kids)
7)Career/Job/Future income
8)Personal Health

I would love to hear your list as well as maybe get some advice. This isn't meant to be a super serious discussion...though it may very well turn out to be. If that happens, I would prefer to discuss it privately. Thanks for taking the time to read this! :)

04-25-2011, 11:50 AM
Sadly, my list would look somewhat similar to that. I'd suggest doing more things family related to reset your order. First, that would bump family up on the list, while taking time away from, or at least distracting from your hobbies and apparent porn addiction. Basically, dropping them a few notches. And while you're at it, maybe do some bigger an better things with the family and it would partially focus you more on work to get more money for better trips and such. And while you're thinking about money, you're finances may come more into play.

Now, most Churchies will tell you to start with faith. That may or may not work. Let's face it, there's a reason it's as low on the list as it is already.. That may incidentally move up your list while working on other things though. Maybe at some point it will become your top priority? Who knows?

D. Bergin
04-25-2011, 01:03 PM
Sounds like a bad case of "apathy" to me.

Luckily I have a wife that's not afraid to give me a much needed kick in the ass whenever I get too absorbed in my own "interests".

It's spring, I would suggest going outdoors with your family whenever you have the chance.

We hike and kayak quite a bit.........but still not nearly enough. For every time we go out there's probably 5 other times I make up an excuse or come up with a reason for not going out. We all have things we need to work on.

04-25-2011, 01:20 PM
Re-establish your priorities. Have faith that you can achieve your goals. Fight like hell.
One day at a time, brah. Good luck.
One who knows.

04-25-2011, 09:34 PM
Thanks for the positive responses and the messages everyone.

04-25-2011, 10:06 PM
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